Not quite ready to send a message? A Wink is a free way to let another RSVP member know you’re interested without using a Stamp. It is like sending a simple "Hello" to other member.
It’s an easy way to make the first move and see if the interest is mutual.
What happens when I send a Wink?
When you send someone a Wink, they’ll be able to see that you’re interested and can choose how they’d like to respond.
If they respond positively, you can then decide whether you’d like to use a Stamp to start a conversation.
We generally recommend sending a free Wink first and waiting for a positive response before using a Stamp. That way, you’ll have a better idea of whether they’re interested in getting to know you too.
How do I send a Wink?
Found someone you’d like to get to know?
- Open or view their profile.
- Select the purple Wink icon, or scroll to the bottom of their profile to find the Wink section
- Choose the message you’d like to include with your Wink.
- Send your Wink.
That’s it! They’ll be able to respond if they’re interested.
Why am I receiving Winks from people outside my preferences?
You may occasionally receive a Wink from someone who falls outside the age, distance or other preferences you’ve selected.
This can happen because matching and searching work both ways. While they may not match all of your preferences, you may match the criteria they’re looking for, which means your profile can appear in their results.
If you’re not interested, that’s completely fine — simply select Not Interested when responding to their Wink.
How long do Winks stay on RSVP?
Winks have different expiry periods depending on whether they’ve been sent, received or responded to.
| Wink Status | How Long It Stays |
|---|---|
| You receive a Wink but don’t respond | Up to 14 days |
| You send a Wink but don’t receive a response | Up to 14 days |
| Someone responds to your Wink, positively or negatively | Up to 28 days |
| You respond positively to a Wink | Up to 28 days, or until either member starts a Chat |
| You respond with Not Interested | Removed from your Winks list after responding |
| The other member’s account is suspended | Removed immediately |
Once a Wink reaches its expiry period, it will automatically disappear from your Winks list.
Good to know: If a Wink expires, you can send that member another Wink if you’re still interested.
Can I delete a Wink?
Yes. If you don’t want a Wink to appear in your list anymore, swipe it to the left to reveal the Delete option.
Keep in mind that deleting a Wink is permanent. Once you’ve deleted it, we can’t restore it for you.