Chat Messages/Activity notification icons

1. What do the new icons in the main navigation mean?

  • Activity notifications bar: This displays alert for profile views, messages from members and RSVP, and read receipts that occur whilst you’re online. You can view all these plus alerts that occurred whilst you were offline, by clicking on 'View all' or by visiting 'My activity feed' on the 'My home' page.
  • Who's online: View who's online right now and available to chat from your members of interest. These are members you have added as your favourite, or been in contact with.


2. How do I start a chat conversation with another member?

You can open a Chat window with any member that is online by:
- Selecting Chat from the 'Who's online' icon in the main navigation: 

- Click on 'Chat':

Note: when you receive a message from another member who is online (other than a Wink message), it will appear in a chat window on your screen.  

3. Does chatting use Stamps?

The first message with a new contact (whether it's a message or a chat message) will use 1 stamp. You can then message each other for 30 days. It's free to reply.

4. How to end chat conversation with another member?

Simply close the chat window to end chat.

5. How do I turn off chat?

You can 'Appear offline' from 'Who's online' in main navigation to prevent chat windows from popping up. Any messages received will be in your 'Conversations'.


6. How to add a photo to your message?

Members can share private photos via chat or email. To share a photo simply click on the photo icon in the chat window, select and upload an image from your computer.

7. Can I chat to more than one person at the same time?

Yes. You can open as many chat windows as you like!

8. What is a 'message'? How is it different from 'chat' or 'email'?

They are the same! But if both people are online at the same time, messages will appear in a chat pop window, making it easier to send and receive short messages quickly and easily, whilst still browsing the site. All messages are saved in your 'Conversations' and 'Contact history' page with that user. 

9. How long are my chat messages stored for?

We store messages in full for 6 months.

10. How can I change my Profile status to 'Appear online/offline'?

Simply click on the 'Who's Online' icon and then on the 'Appear online/Appear offline' link. If you're online, the silhouette in the icon will be green.

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